Take Stock Of Your Life

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Ancient Romans named the month of January for Janus, their god of gates, doors and beginnings. Always pictured with two faces—one looking toward the future, the other back at the past—Janus is a fitting symbol for the turning of a new year.
As we step through the doorway from one year to the next, it’s natural to do as Janus does: look back and ahead. But this year, instead of just reflecting on the past year or making New Year’s resolutions, consider using this first part of the year to take stock of your life.
What do you value? What do you believe? What do you really need?
When we discover who we really are, we stop living on auto-pilot and start to live with intention, focus and purpose. Our choices become clearer. We begin to make active choices in our life, instead of making excuses or passively living with the status quo.
Journal Exercise
Here are a few questions to get you started. Have a journal or some way to record your thoughts. (Writing by hand keeps you in touch with your breath and your heart.)
•  What is aching to be expressed?
•  What needs healing?
•  What unique gifts, talents and skills do you bring to the world? How are you using them (or not)?
•  Who do you need to forgive? How about yourself?
•  What beliefs are holding you back? What is getting in your way?
•  Who or what do you need leave behind?
•  What brings you the most joy?

Don’t ignore the physiological messages you may be receiving.  You body can also give you cues as to what needs to change or what needs to be healed in your life. Here are additional thought starters with a focus on what your body may be telling you:

What is your body telling you? When someone yells at you, does your stomach tie up in knots? Do your shoulders stiffen when you’ve been too focused on fulfilling others’ needs and ignoring your own? Notice the messages your body is giving you.
Check in with your heart. The heart is the home of what is most alive in us. What does your heart have to say about your job? About how you spend your days? Does it need more play time? What, according to your heart, really matters?
Listen to your intuition, your “gut.” Your intuition speaks volumes, but often gets ignored. What is this voice saying now?
Acknowledge what is working. Be grateful for the gifts and the blessings that are in your life right now. Write them down. (enter findings from gratitude journal findings)
Embrace the truth. Now is the time to start being honest about who you really are. Encouraging those unlived parts of ourselves to emerge can provide an exhilarating sense of discovery and optimism for the New Year and beyond.

Now it’s your turn.

I would love to hear from you! What are some of your best secrets for self-reflection?  Share you ideas below.


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About Angela
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Angela M. Joyner, PhD is the Founder of The Wonder Loft, a positive leadership coaching practice for women. Through her writing, teaching, and curating unique workshop experiences, Angela helps women discover their unique brilliance, have more confidence and flourish. Her mission is to nourish the minds and souls of women around the world. Learn more at http://www.thewonderloft.com.

Hello 2016!

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Happy 2016!  I always get so excited for the start of the new year.  For me it is a time for new beginnings and boundless hope.  The new year gives me the chance to reflect on my previous year and celebrate my blessings as well as let go of my shortcomings.  With the passing of each year, I know that I am given the chance to leave behind relationships, attitudes  and experiences that no longer impact my life in a positive way.  The new year gives me permission to let go of toxic or stagnant relationships.  I get a chance to start again.  I can hit the pause button and reorder my steps if that is what is needed.  I can reallocated my best time for the things that matter most in my life.  The powerful and sometimes painful lessons I learned last year can serve as my guide in the months to come.

On the first day of the new year, I spend hours writing in my journal. With words (and a little glitter), I capture my hopes, goals and vision for the upcoming year. The intent is to write without editing and pour out what is on my mind or in my heart.  Since I am a visual person, I then will creatively express my thoughts on a vision board. This year my masterpiece is an expression of what I want more of this year.  I want my year to be filled with things and relationships that truly matter.  Pursuing meaningful work and integrating my passions into my career are at the top of my list for 2016. I truly want to experience wholehearted living.  As I was gathering prose and pictures for the board, I came across a description of a woman that I truly aspire to become.  The description is written below (Porter Magazine January 2016):

“There is a woman.  We have watched her for years, but she continues to surprise.  Perhaps she has grown in stature and found her voice.  A champion among women, at ease in front of any audience, she has changed the way we see – not only her but the world at large.  Escape was her goal, from old ways of thinking to new outlooks and fresh expectations.  Bolder than ever, she is paving the way for others to follow.”

What words of inspiration will inspire you this year?  What is your vision for 2016?

With Love & Wonder,

Angela


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Coming this spring! Do you want to do more of what you love? Are you ready for more meaningful connections and yearn to nurture the relationships that matter? Do you believe that you were created to have a bigger impact in the world?

Look for the NEW – Pause. Discover & Thrive(TM) sessions coming later this spring!

Want to get more details or schedule a complimentary sneak peak session before the big launch? Just email me at angela@thewonderloft.com!


About Angela
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Angela M. Joyner, PhD is the Founder of The Wonder Loft, a positive leadership coaching practice for women. Through her writing, teaching, and curating unique workshop experiences, Angela helps women discover their unique brilliance, have more confidence and flourish. Her mission is to nourish the minds and souls of women around the world. Learn more at http://www.thewonderloft.com.

How To Have More Time

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Want More Time?  Change Your Mind.
If time were an animal, it would be on the endangered species list. At least that’s how it seems: Too much to do, too many places to be, too little time to do it all.
On the job, in school, at home, we are increasingly imprisoned by the perception that time is a scarce and limited resource. We rush from one commitment or activity to another and believe that we haven’t a minute to spare. We yearn for more time, yet we often feel anxious and guilty when idle. A 2009 CareerBuilder study indicated that 23% of workers workers say they are dissatisfied with their work/life balance.
Is this how life is supposed to be?
No! Nor does it have to be.
But until we change our relationship to time, our lives will continue to speed away from us—at enormous cost to our health and to direct experience of ourselves and the world around us.
“There is no issue, no aspect of human life, that exceeds this in importance,” says Jacob Needleman, author of Time and the Soul. “The destruction of time is literally the destruction of life.”
When we learn to shift time, our relationships become more rewarding, our time spent alone is richer, our aging is more satisfying, our work is more fruitful and our stress and anxiety are less paralyzing, or even nonexistent.
To allow time to “breathe” more in your life, try some or all of the following suggestions from Stephan Rechtschaffen, author of Timeshifting, as well as others. See if your reservoir of time starts to refill.
Pause. Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Han suggests taking a deep breath before answering the phone. Other conscious pauses throughout the day—a moment of silence before each meal, sitting in the car a few minutes before entering the house after work—help us to “come home” to ourselves.
Carve out idle time alone. Greek philosopher Aristotle noted that “nature requires us not only to be able to work well but also to idle well.” Just because you’re not doing anything doesn’t mean that nothing’s getting done!
Live as fully as possible in the present moment. When we leave behind thoughts of the past or future, we can experience time more peacefully, says Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now.
Toss your schedule whenever you can. Even better, schedule spontaneous time and then surprise yourself.
Examine underlying reasons for your busyness. What emotions would you experience if you weren’t so busy? What would you wish for? Emotional work is challenging but essential if we are to stop running from our hearts.
Play. Whether you sing, write, paint, dance or travel, “play” helps us to step outside of ordinary time.  The National Institute for Play believes that play can dramatically transform our personal health, our relationships, the education we provide our children and the capacity of our corporations to innovate.
Create time retreats. Once a year or so, choose to do something for a week or more that allows you to shift into a different rhythm—something where you can just “be” without the need for doing anything.
Give time away.  Spending as little as 10 minutes helping others can make you feel less time-constrained.  According to a 2012 Wharton study, Cassie Mogilner found that that giving your time to others can make you feel more “time affluent” and less time-constrained than wasting your time, spending it on yourself, or even getting a windfall of free time.
Spend time in nature. We can’t help but slow down in nature’s unhurried pace. Watching a soaring bird or examining a flower can seem to stretch a minute into an hour. A series of studies published in the June  2010 issue of the Journal of Environmental Psychology  found that being outside in nature makes people feel more alive.
We can learn to experience time more purposefully and meaningfully—so that it’s not an enemy robbing us of the joy of life. We needn’t be at time’s mercy. When we change our awareness, we can actually experience the gifts of time.

Now it’s your turn.

I would love to hear from you! What are some of your best secrets for making time for what really matters in your life?  Share you ideas below.


University of Rochester. “Spending time in nature makes people feel more alive, study shows.” ScienceDaily. ScienceDaily, 4 June 2010. <www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/06/100603172219.htm>.

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Want to get more details or schedule a complimentary sneak peak session before the big launch?  Just email me at angela@thewonderloft.com!


 

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PRAISE for my bestseller book, Cultivating Joy is rolling in:

Connecting with other people through the stories of their inspirational journeys is one of the most uplifting blessings I can think ofand Cultivating Joy is a beautiful resource that does exactly that. Linda Joy has a talent for compiling stories that touch, comfort, and inspire, and I have no doubt that Cultivating Joy will help many on their journeys.”

Dina Proctor, best-selling author of Madly Chasing Peace: How I Went from Hell to Happy in 9 Minutes a Day and creator of 3×3 Meditation

Cultivating Joy shares touching and triumphant stories from women of all ages. This book shows us that joy is available in every moment and situation if we only open our eyes and behold its beauty. Read this book and be uplifted.

Amy Leigh Mercree, author of The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex and Soul Mates

With warmth, humor, and courage, the stories shared in Cultivating Joy will touch your heart and transform your life. No matter where you are on your journey, the deeply personal stories shared in this book will inspire you to invite more joy into your daily routine. Infinite love and gratitude to the extraordinary women who contributed their stories to Cultivating Joy.”

Shann Vander Leek, Transformation Goddess, Best-selling author, Award-winning podcaster, and producer of the Divine Feminine Spotlight Series and Goddess Talk Sessions.

ORDER YOUR COPY TODAY> www.CultivatingJoyBook.com


About Angela
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Angela M. Joyner, PhD is the Founder of The Wonder Loft, a positive leadership coaching practice for women. Through her writing, teaching, and curating unique workshop experiences, Angela helps women discover their unique brilliance, have more confidence and flourish. Her mission is to nourish the minds and souls of women around the world. Learn more at http://www.thewonderloft.com.

Best Way to Beat Burnout

 

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“My candle burns at both ends/it will not last the night.”

—Edna St. Vincent Millay

 

Defining burnout is not as simple as one might think because it affects so many aspects of your life. In their book, Beyond Burnout, authors David Welch, Donald Medeiros and George Tate, describe burnout as a condition that affects us physically, intellectually, emotionally, socially and spiritually.

 

One of the first physical symptoms of burnout is fatigue. You may that you do not have any energy to complete work tasks or that you are dragging by the end of the day. From an intellectual perspective, you may experience a loss of creativity or innovative thinking. Your sharpness and critical thinking skills could become sub-par when problem solving. When you are experiencing burnout, cynicism may replace enthusiasm or positive thinking. The loss of dreams and positive expectations can have an emotional impact resulting in feelings of helplessness and depression. Another social implication of burn out is having feelings of isolation rather than engagement. You may choose to disconnect from other and retreat from activities. Furthermore, from a spiritual perspective, you may feel as if you don’t matter or you lack purpose.

 

In the last few years, 14% of the workforce has quit or changed jobs due to job stress. Moreover, according to a recent study, one in three Americans is expected to experience burnout on the job in the near future. The burn out phenomena does not seem to be going away. So how can you avoid becoming one of the unfortunate people contributing to these burnout statistics?

First, you must recognize the warning signs. You may be on the verge of burnout if you are:

  • Frustrated and overwhelmed
  • Lack of control about how to do your job or what goes on in the workplace
  • Experiencing frequent emotional outbursts
  • Withdrawn and isolated
  • Dreading going to work
  • Feeling sick or have health problems
  • Coping by increasing the use of alcohol, drugs or food consumption
  • Thinking about quitting (or running away) but a fear of doing so

Unfortunately, taking a few days off to escape or a taking vacation to Tahiti won’t contain the burnout. Simply leaving one job for another is not an effective strategy either. Burnout has more to do with attitudes, work styles, and behavior than it does the specific job situation.

8 Secrets to Avoid Burnout

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  1. Become A Master of Self-management

Take the time to set clear goals and objectives. Ensure that they are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time sensitive. Take the time to plan out your day and focus on those activities that are most important. If you can, bucket activities that are similar so that you can focus one area at a time (e.g. communication, meetings, feedback, reading, etc.). By dedicating some time for planning, you can be better prepared for what is ahead. Your preparation will allow you to have more control over your schedule and what you can manage at a given time.

 

  1. Stress management

Learn how you respond to stress. Are you the type of person who charges through stressful times or do your retreat? When you are stressed out do you become irritable or more of a recluse? If you know how you respond to stress, you can better develop strategies to better manage it. Some effective ways to manage stress are to take more breaks, exercise, or eat healthy foods. By taking some time to leave the building and going outside can relieve some tension. Being intentional about making time for play and rest are also positive ways to deal with stressed. When I am stressed, I take time to get massages, paint, knit or listen to a book on tape. During more stressful times at work, I will play a music CD of classical or relaxing music. Keeping fresh flowers, inspirational quotes and pictures of my loved ones in my office help make my work environment pleasant. These personal touches transform my office into a sanctuary to which I can retreat when the day gets crazy busy. Discover what works best for you practice good self-care habits.

 

  1. Identify Your Personal Support Systems

Family, friends, co-workers, and professional organizations can all serve as support systems in your life. Who can you count on when things get stressful? Identify resources that you can use when you need them. I often intentionally schedule time to talk to my family throughout the week to keep me focused on what is most important in my life. Don’t hesitate to outsource services if it will make your life easier. By outsourcing several tasks (e.g. walking the dog, cleaning the house, lawn care, etc.) I have been able to use that time to fill my life with things like, self-care, family time or finishing up something on my to-do list.

  1. Expand your repertoire of skills

Look for opportunities to learn new skills or assignments that provide an intellectual challenge. Participate in activities that use your natural skills, talents and abilities. Rather than becoming stagnant, you’ll be able to grow in areas you enjoy. As part of your development, you can look for chances to gain exposure or experience with skills you need for the next career level. If you do not have the ability to influence the type of projects you lead at work, perhaps you can find opportunities for intellectual stimulation outside of work.

 

  1. Seek Balance In Your Life

Seek a balanced and well-structured lifestyle. Determine what’s important to you and create a lifestyle that embraces and supports you. Identify activities and things that bring your joy. Fill your day with people and tasks that you love. Schedule time for self-care and rest. You must be intentional about balancing your life. If you don’t make it a priority no one else will. I really enjoy art and cultural activities. These activities make me happy and feed my creative soul. Each month I schedule time to visit a museum, see a show or participate in a creative activity to fulfill my need for culture.

 

  1. Think positively

Replace negativity with optimistic thinking. Helpless thinking is a major contributor to burnout. The burgeoning field of Positive Psychology is deeply rooted in focusing on what is right with people. By having a positive perspective on life, you can increase fulfillment and engagement. There are both physical and emotional benefits to looking at the world with the lens of “glass half full”.

 

  1. Be creative

Look for a different approach to the same problems or to unpleasant situations. Break free from your everyday routine. Let your work space express your individuality. Seeking innovative solutions to common problems can challenge your thinking and stretch your creative skills. By taking a different route to work, you may experience your commute in a totally fresh way.

 

  1. Humor and playfulness

Humor reduces stress and promotes physical healing. It is essential for mental health and can add years to your life. Don’t take yourself so seriously. Watching a funny movie or television show can instantly lift your spirits and energy. No wonder they say humor is the best antidote. Enjoy yourself.

 

Now it’s your turn.

I would love to hear from you! What are some of your best secrets for beating burnout?  Share you ideas below.


 

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PRAISE for my bestseller book, Cultivating Joy is rolling in:

The sweet spot of your joy rests between the worst day of your life and the best day of your life. It is the e-ticket to your truth, your highest calling, and your authentic self. Cultivating Joy eloquently shares passages of spirited women authorsbrave moments of tragedy to triumph. Linda Joy has an uncanny way of bringing poignant moments in our lives, gift-wrapped in her book, where you will discover the howto your true joy.

Jackie Ruka , America’s Happyologist; author of the best-selling book, Get Happy and Create a Kick -Butt Life! And Founder of the GetHappyZone.com

This collection of stories will ignite a new sense of wonder and awe, helping you reconnect to your best self with joy as your inspirational compass.

Shannon Kaiser, the Joy Guru and best-selling author of Adventures for Your Soul

ORDER YOUR COPY TODAY> www.CultivatingJoyBook.com

Connecting with other people through the stories of their inspirational journeys is one of the most uplifting blessings I can think ofand Cultivating Joy is a beautiful resource that does exactly that. Linda Joy has a talent for compiling stories that touch, comfort, and inspire, and I have no doubt that Cultivating Joy will help many on their journeys.”

Dina Proctor, best-selling author of Madly Chasing Peace: How I Went from Hell to Happy in 9 Minutes a Day and creator of 3×3 Meditation

Cultivating Joy shares touching and triumphant stories from women of all ages. This book shows us that joy is available in every moment and situation if we only open our eyes and behold its beauty. Read this book and be uplifted.

Amy Leigh Mercree, author of The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex and Soul Mates

ORDER YOUR COPY TODAY> www.CultivatingJoyBook.com

With warmth, humor, and courage, the stories shared in Cultivating Joy will touch your heart and transform your life. No matter where you are on your journey, the deeply personal stories shared in this book will inspire you to invite more joy into your daily routine. Infinite love and gratitude to the extraordinary women who contributed their stories to Cultivating Joy.”

Shann Vander Leek, Transformation Goddess, Best-selling author, Award-winning podcaster, and producer of the Divine Feminine Spotlight Series and Goddess Talk Sessions.

Even more praise can be found here. And you can meet my co-authors too!


About Angela
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Angela M. Joyner, PhD is the Founder of The Wonder Loft, a positive leadership coaching practice for women. Through her writing, teaching, and curating unique workshop experiences, Angela helps women discover their unique brilliance, have more confidence and flourish. Her mission is to nourish the minds and souls of women around the world. Learn more at http://www.thewonderloft.com.

More & More

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I am called to a life of riches and abundance.  An abundant life is my birthright, unrestrained and unmerited.  My  riches are not measured in by material things, power, titles or social status.  They include things like: faith, family, friendships, talents, passions, experiences, intelligence and joy.

Unfortunately, the world in which I live is filled with people who are willing and capable of robbing that abundance and joy.  Each morning, I can  pick up a newspaper and be exposed to misery, pain, malice and fear.  Lack of trust and integrity are pervasive in our organizations.  Often it appears that these toxic behaviors, apathy, and insensitivity are the norm rather than the exception.  The are abounding more and more instead of abundance.  But I do not waver nor get discouraged.

A rich and abundant life reminds me of a garden. The propensity toward increase and abundance can be found everywhere.  Weeds have a propensity to grow.  But flowers also have the propensity to grow, if I take the time to nurture them.  I believe the propensity to grow is also true in my life. I can nurture my fears or I can choose to be courageous. I can choose love or malice.   I have the ability to decide how I direct my energy and time.  Will I choose to nurture or destroy?  Will I cultivate a relationship or will I apathetically  neglect it and witness its inevitable demise?

The concept of abundance can also be found at work.  When I have invested my the time to cultivate relationships and nurture the careers of others, I have found that their success increased more and more.  My impact as a leader abounded as well.  When I fostered an environment where work people knew their contributions mattered and ideas were nurtured, great results were not far behind.  Confidence, collaboration and higher performance increased.  The is an old adage that says ” The results you get are directly proportionate to the effort you put in” is true.  The more you put in, the more you will get out and you get to choose where you focus your efforts.  I can choose what I want to increase and what I want to starve.

In the face of injustice, hate and mediocrity; we are called to do more.  We are called to be more. We are called show more compassion, more love, more integrity, more hope, more wisdom, and more courage. As people who lead with their heads & hearts in one accord, it is our calling to be the light in a dark world.  We can choose to invest our hearts, experiences and passions into a world that desperately need cultivators.  We can be the catalyst for increase, abundance and richer lives.

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Your turn:

What is the one thing that you can do increase your impact in the world?  Join the discussion and comment below!


CJ_FBad1000_Author

PRAISE for my bestseller book, Cultivating Joy is rolling in:

The sweet spot of your joy rests between the worst day of your life and the best day of your life. It is the e-ticket to your truth, your highest calling, and your authentic self. Cultivating Joy eloquently shares passages of spirited women authorsbrave moments of tragedy to triumph. Linda Joy has an uncanny way of bringing poignant moments in our lives, gift-wrapped in her book, where you will discover the howto your true joy.

Jackie Ruka , America’s Happyologist; author of the best-selling book, Get Happy and Create a Kick -Butt Life! And Founder of the GetHappyZone.com

This collection of stories will ignite a new sense of wonder and awe, helping you reconnect to your best self with joy as your inspirational compass.

Shannon Kaiser, the Joy Guru and best-selling author of Adventures for Your Soul

ORDER YOUR COPY TODAY> www.CultivatingJoyBook.com

Connecting with other people through the stories of their inspirational journeys is one of the most uplifting blessings I can think ofand Cultivating Joy is a beautiful resource that does exactly that. Linda Joy has a talent for compiling stories that touch, comfort, and inspire, and I have no doubt that Cultivating Joy will help many on their journeys.”

Dina Proctor, best-selling author of Madly Chasing Peace: How I Went from Hell to Happy in 9 Minutes a Day and creator of 3×3 Meditation

Cultivating Joy shares touching and triumphant stories from women of all ages. This book shows us that joy is available in every moment and situation if we only open our eyes and behold its beauty. Read this book and be uplifted.

Amy Leigh Mercree, author of The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex and Soul Mates

ORDER YOUR COPY TODAY> www.CultivatingJoyBook.com

With warmth, humor, and courage, the stories shared in Cultivating Joy will touch your heart and transform your life. No matter where you are on your journey, the deeply personal stories shared in this book will inspire you to invite more joy into your daily routine. Infinite love and gratitude to the extraordinary women who contributed their stories to Cultivating Joy.”

Shann Vander Leek, Transformation Goddess, Best-selling author, Award-winning podcaster, and producer of the Divine Feminine Spotlight Series and Goddess Talk Sessions.

Even more praise can be found here. And you can meet my co-authors too!


About Angela
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Angela M. Joyner, PhD is the Founder of The Wonder Loft, a positive leadership coaching practice for women. Through her writing, teaching, and curating unique workshop experiences, Angela helps women discover their unique brilliance, have more confidence and flourish. Her mission is to nourish the minds and souls of women around the world. Learn more at http://www.thewonderloft.com.